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Are All Men Jerks?

21 Feb 2009 Author: admin In: Kara Oh - Dating Advice

I was talking with a woman recently - around 50 years old - who was really interested when I told her I was a Relationship Mentor. She said she was looking for a great guy. Then she went into a description of her more recent experiences with men.

When she was asking me about my work, she was animated and bright-eyed. When she started talking about her experiences with men, her face became a scowl and her energy got dark and angry.

When I offered a few pointers on how she could change her outcome, everything about her told me, “I am locked into my belief that men are jerks, there aren’t any good ones left, and I’m not willing to waste my time trying to meet a good man.” Her words, her tone of voice, her body language, her facial expressions… everything was shut down to hearing anything I had to offer. In her mind, she was right and I wasn’t about to change that.

When I thought about this later, I realized that a lot of women are stuck in this same way of thinking. Let me ask you this: If you are trying to meet your soul mate and you are harboring those kind of thoughts about men - that they’re jerks - do you think you’ll be putting out attractive energy?

This is a perfect example of “What you put out into the universe, you get back.” In other words, when you think men are jerks, you’re going to be searching for verification that you’re right… and guess what? You’ll find examples everywhere.

I rarely meet jerky men. In fact, most men I meet are lovely. But I’m open to them, interested, appreciative, and have a desire to have a heart-to-heart connection with them. And that’s what I get back in return.

So take a personal inventory of how you really feel about men. Make a list of what’s good about men, and on the other side, what’s bad about them. Notice which list is longer. And even more important, notice the energy you feel inside your body as you read each list. You’ll know whether you need to alter some of your thinking.

And if you’re in a relationship or dating someone and wanting him to fall madly in love with you… so much so that he can’t stand the thought of ever losing you, you can’t make that happen if you have any “Men are jerks” thoughts bouncing around in your head. No matter how attractive or sexy you are, if you don’t know how to make him feel like a man he’ll eventually leave you.

Many women think men are jerks because that’s what they attract. If you’re tired of that, take my course, How To Recognize The Right Man For You. You’ll be amazed how fuzzy your picture of Mr. Right has been. To get what you want you need clarity. This course will give you that and a whole lot more.

From my heart to yours,